An old mindset for Burned. This is thread 8.

[burned]

According to sandi, woman need to earn respect for their H in order to find the attraction in them again. One way for her to earn respect is to show her you will no longer take her sh!t. Will it piss her off initially? Sure. But I think you are right that it’s probably one of those counterintuitive things. A lot of this is in my mind. But when you step back and think about it, it all does make sense.

What do you have to lose by doing it? Sounds like she hasn’t come around at all since you moved out, right?

I see the rationale. I’d be curious to hear what Sandi thinks. To me it seems pretty heavy-handed, especially at this point. I’ve been gone for 5 months now. Lawyer consult will help clarify. It’s true that there’s not much to lose, and a whole lot to gain. Wish I had thought of this before I moved from the temporary place to the new place.

It would also probably reset the 6-month D clock of “living separately and apart” before final decree. That could work in my favor, maybe.

This is nuts, guys. Ain’t gonna happen. She’d move right out anyway.

Edit. Will run it by IC tomorrow morning. It may not be a viable plan but it certainly gave me a little confidence boost thinking about it. Like, you know, there’s always room for a little crazy.