Well, about 90-10 thing ya all were discussing. It is a falsehood. The LBS also looks at the wrecked marriage through rose colored glasses making it sound more ideal than it really was. You will arrive to this conclusion in due time. In due time, the rose colored glasses will shatter and you will begin to see that your M was not all that perfect, you were quite a dick at times and your spouse was no cinderella either.
I will say it again. Your marriage was not perfect, chances are it was just OK, but that is fine, 90% of marriages are in this category. Same as the WAS rewrites history and sees the marriage all bad, so does the LBS rewrite history, making the marriage sound better than it really was.
You have to own up to the fact that you bear a part of the blame for the demise of your marriage, but no more than half. So own up to it, forgive yourself and start rebuilding yourself and your life.
Burned, if I were you, I would ask a lawyer for an advice how to move back into your home. For fcuck's sake, it is YOUR home. If she want's to leave, she can bloody well leave herself. But do not do anything rash, consult a lawyer, before doing anything.
After I discussed the matter with the lawyer, I would send W an email saying: "Listen W, this thing me staying in a strange apartment in a strange part of town is not working for me, so I will be moving back into my home on this and this date." Nothing further is needed, she will get the hint.
And after you move back, take back the bedroom. She can sleep in the bedroom, or make other arangements. Fcuck her and her $hit.
