Background: married 11 years, 2 kids. In CC 4 years ever since she came forward saying she was "disconnected" from me, which turned into confessing to an EA, which, 3 weeks ago she admitted was a PA (claims they had sex only once and has had only professional contact since then. I made her send an email to AP saying she wants no contact which she quickly agreed to) It's very confusing for me because she shows up to therapy (we've been in it 4 years!!!) but has been lying/deceiving/distancing the whole time.
When she confessed that she'd been lying for 4 years I went crazy/screamed at her and rented an apt for the month. Since I've been working to be 4Cs and we've been each taking half time at the apt.
