Well when I picked up the kids and told them D8 was disappointed and was saying W never never helps, D8 can never rely on mom, mom lies etc. I reminded D8 W is sick so it cannot be helped. D8 said mom always gets migraines and doesn't help.
It is so so tough holding your tongue with kids but you handled it brilliantly. I try and be positive about my H with the kids - keep reminding them how much he loves them, try and get them excited whenever they are going to see him. I have to tell you, it takes A LOT of self control. I guess the balance is not covering for our spouses whilst also not bad mouthing them. Maintaining this balance isn't too tough - H is actually a decent dad, but I can only imagine how much more difficult it would be if your S is [censored].
