So there's a good question. Mostly because I remember the 9 years before things went south, and they were good years. We're getting rid of something 90% good because we don't like the 10% of it that's bad. On the other hand, the A. I mean, why not just say you're leaving and leave? Why hide it and lie about it for that long?
I really like this Burned and I am of the same mindset. It is hard to explain and I don't expect anyone to understand it that isn't going through it. I had a great marriage up until BD, not perfect by any means but it was a very happy 8 years. We built an amazing family together. I will probably always be open to some sort of recon. The 90%/10% is exactly what I think most of us are dealing with. The WAS only seems to fpcus on the 10% bad though.
I also struggle greatly with the question "Why not just leave?". I would really like to ask her If myself and our marriage was so bad and you were this unhappy why have you not left yet? Why do you not seem to have any plan for actually getting a divorce?
