[Wanted1]

If nothing good comes from it, I can't do much about it but be comfortable knowing I tried.

This line of thinking doesnt make any sense to me. If you were in prison, you wouldnt smash your head against the wall 50 times and then walk away saying "well, I didnt think I was going to be able to tunnel my way out of jail by hitting my head against the wall, but at least I tried." To me, the process is about setting goals, it's about consistent change, it's about learning new skills and implementing them, it's about finding out what is important to you, and so on. In my opinions, a hail mary is basically that. But right now, you're in the middle of the first quarter. I feel like you cant see it at this point, because youre too emotionally invested. But you are just starting to recognize your patterns and the issues in your marriage. Youve been here for what, a month?

This meeting may help. My guess and experience suggests to me that she will tune him out if he is suggesting anything other than "you deserve to be happy. Find what makes you happy." But, Ive been surprised before.

I hope that before and after the meeting you are still working on the things I listed above!

What I meant by saying that is, sort of explained in my last sentence after it. I would regret not doing this meeting down the road. I would always wonder "what if." If I would have pushed for the meeting, would that have maybe been the turning point? I don't mean it in a totalitarian sense of my entire situation. I think that's maybe how you took it?

If nothing good comes from it, it isn't like I'm going to file for D immediately afterwards. I know it is going to take time and space. A lot of time. I feel like it needs to take a lot of time because if anything is rushed, the chances of more problems coming up down the road are probably greater. I'm not expecting for this to be an "aha moment" where she suddenly, during the meeting, as an intense desire to be with me again. While that would be nice, that is completely unrealistic. A positive outcome from it would be any type of small step back in my direction.