I figured something out.

W wants me to ask her for help, and wants me to need her help with life.

But I don't.

She called this morning about a dr appt she made for Monday for S because she thought he was almost out of meds...I only sent enough with him to last while he was gone so that there wasn't confusion when we trade him off later. She didn't think about that though, and she literally refilled his meds a week ago.

I told her about only sending some, he's not low, he's got plenty at home.

She said that she wants to take S to her family's Thanksgiving event, I said that was fine (my family is over 1,200 miles away). Next Friday, I have to work but the daycare is closed...I haven't made plans for that yet. W was crying asking me not to use the sitter downstairs (her adult children have had drug issues), which is valid. I said I'd come up with something else. She called back a few minutes later, still crying, and said her mom would watch S that day. I said that would be ok (because frankly I don't have ANY sitter options).

W: "This would be easy, you just have to ask me for help!"

Me: "I'm fine. I can figure this stuff out. I haven't had a chance though, and I'm low on options. But thank you."

W: "Just ask me for help!"

My brain: "Oh hell no."