A familiar story with questions EIGHT

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Sorry for the misunderstand. Your questions seemed rhetorical as you jumped immediately to judgment. I have reread them and it doesn't appear you were seeking understanding as much as trying to prove a point. Could be my bias.

I am telling you now. I don't believe that my communication is "rigid, and cold, and exhausting". I don't believe that I am on the "spectrum". When I first read your response it appeared to me that you were suggesting I get tested. I asked and you said "yes". Only now do I see where your answer may have applied to my rhetorical question of did you reach the conclusion based on my stories. (of course you did how else would you?) You see, clear succinct communications has its advantages.

When you share these exchanges and talk about communication, I get the impression that you think personal communication should be as precise and unambiguous as a legal contract.

I think this is an exaggeration. If I don't understand the meaning behind her "Maybe" or "We'll see" etc. Changing my attitude or reading about communication styles isn't going to help me better understand.
BTW, When I used the above example, it was a way that she communicates to my Ds. Yes, I understand the social hedging you described. I also understand it's overuse and when it becomes a problem.
When communicating with me I don't accept these answers on questions of importance. I ask again and try to find out if she really hasn't formed an opinion or if the answer is negative. I try to do it in a kind and understanding manner.

If you answer my question from the original post, that might give me new information that changes my view, but I sense this particular exchange is probably winding down.

Here is an example. Do you want me to really answer this question? I don't think so because it isn't even worded as a question. It seems rhetorical to me. Then you step away be saying that the subject is winding down. Correct?
What do I do with this?

I really do not believe that I am this rigid miserable monster that you describe. I try to express myself here as clearly as possible to avoid misunderstanding. I realize emotions are elevated and nerves are raw. This includes my nerves on occasion. This non-conversational, succinct style is my attempt to avoid miscommunication. It is not how I speak to my W or kids.