I edited my post within seconds of sending it. You quoted it in your reply, so you can see that the post as it now stands is the same text you responded to.
And I did question. I said (paraphrasing) that it seems you feel when your wife uses words like "maybe" and " we'll see" that that is not honest communication.
And then I asked if I was understanding your position correctly. I put it on its own line, so it would stand out and be easy to see.
You never responded to it.
In the interest of time in this asynchronous communication method, I then shared my impressions based on the thing I asked about being true, but, I used words like "if" and "might" to acknowledge that my perception might not fit your reality.
And I'm not rushing to judgement. My impressions (which I have always acknowledged might be wrong) are based on over a year of reading your posts.
Referring to Asperger's was a horrible mistake, and I am sincerely sorry and won't do it again.
But I stand by my replacement description that you find exaggerated. That accurately reflects my view, based on reading your posts describing your communication.
If you answer my question from the original post, that might give me new information that changes my view, but I sense this particular exchange is probably winding down.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16