I've read that some in MLC eventually wake up and some don't. I am beginning to think that XW will be one that doesn't. Sad.
I personally think that there are two parts to this.
The first is perhaps "waking up" / realizing that they made a mistake / realizing the damage that they caused.
The second, more important part is taking responsibility for that and having the courage to attempt to make amends.
Perhaps in the dark of the night they may experience the first. We like to think so. I do think though that most who walk that path don't have the strength of character to do the second and so are lost to us. I certainly believe this to be the case with my own ex.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells