Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage

[SoTorn]

Ok. So she wanted to argue. But, I deescalted her. I didn't talk about the future or love or finances or divorce. I asked her to just explain why she can't leave me be, aka not ambush argue. She essentially told me she feels like I'm trying to push her out and take all her money.

I actually laughed. I kept it brief and explained that I understand how she feels right now, I do not want to fight and that my goal is not to anger or hurt her. I asked if she was still talking to OM and she is. I gave her my opinion on that calmly and straight forward. As long as shes talking to him I don't want to talk to her about anything.

I told her that this person she is now is not my wife, but we can get along for the kids sake. I just set boundaries that she will not mistreat me or bully me into talking about the future.

She thinks that I'm backend trying to control her. I asked why and she didn't have an answer. I only talked to get her to stop causing conflict because I'm tired of it. She seems to have agreed.

I'm still retaining an attorney though.