Hey ST, I was born and raised in NM myself. Lived in the northern part of the state before I moved to the Northwest. I envy your easy access to red and green chile .
For your sitch, the best advice I can give you right now is to continue to post and read others' posts for insight. I would try to limit contact with your WW as often as you can. Whether she wonders or not, that's none of her business. She wants out, why should she care what you're up to?
You have a good head start in what is going to be a very long and painful journey (sorry). I have been told that in the long run, things will work out. I'm seeing flashes of that, but it is still a painful trek. I'm four months in to DBing after nearly 7 months of spiraling down.
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