If she goes out of town again I am going to move out with the kids. I told her that already.
I think it would be VERY important to check with a lawyer first. Youve already said she travels almost 50% for her job. So....how can you expect her to not go anywhere all of a sudden? I have a hard time believing a judge would look fondly on you uprooting your children to go...where exactly?
Originally Posted by SoTorn
I know I'm being impatient but every day I see her it hurts me badly. I am very hurt.
This is very clear. I can see very clearly that you are acting in fight or flight mode. 100% emotion and adrenaline. Unfortunately, that doesnt work. You cant MATCH your WWs emotions. Instead, you should be calm, cool, collected, logical, thoughtful, etc. Take your focus off of her and onto you and your kids. What is best for the three of you. Work towards that. Dont use your pain as an excuse or a crutch. It's going to hurt regardless of where you are or where she is. And look, making any kind of big decisions while you are in this state is a terrible plan. You just dont have the capability to think rationally right now. Stop trying to DO so much and just relax, breathe, and...BE for a little while.
Originally Posted by SoTorn
I am trying not to slide head first into depression but i honestly dont know if i can do it. I'm seeing my IC today. I'm hurting today.
This is an incredible place to start. What can you do about your own mood and wellbeing? What self-care can you do today?
