I think your realtor has given you good advice. I would put it back on the market in early March because houses don't usually sell quickly between Nov. - Feb. Before I agreed to take it off the market, I would discuss what the realtor advised you to do.
If you use the house as a bargaining chip, she may tell you to keep it on the market. Proposing or giving ultimatums doesn't work well when some is in MLC. They always pick the option that is the easiest and she will see this as manipulation. I would just lay out to her what the realtor said and not bring up the divorce issue...but that is my two cents.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
