An old mindset for Burned. This is thread 8.

[burned]

Thanks for that. It's sort of what I thought you'd say (and have said before) but I needed to hear it again.

Just now I recalled something IC said a couple weeks ago, that self-respect comes from making my own choices, not "doing what's right." I mean ideally the two would line up. But in this case there's so much ambiguity that "what's right" in terms of the R is up for debate. And I debate it internally, constantly.

So when IC says to do what's in my best interest, and I reflect on what I've learned here, then what's in my best interest is telling the people I love that I'm making my own decisions and I'll accept the consequences. They may hurt seeing me hurt, but my actions shouldn't be geared toward helping THEM feel better.

Ah, cool insight. Getting rid of more of that old NGS.