Still determined, not as scared

[Twofeet]

DV6,

I am not a DB vet, but can try tackling your early question about WAS vs WS. MWD methods in DB/DR treat both the same. Basically Sandi split them out based on her experiences as a WW and the experiences of other WS who posted and the LBS who dealt with them. The WS is one who is involved in an A and typically has lost all respect for their S. They cake eat a lot and are in an A fog. Sandi recommends tough love, being firmer, getting respect back with S because the LBS is trying to bust the A and bust the D. The WAS can be approached just using MWD methods. The WAS is usually just fed up with the MR due to the LBS, the WAS, or both. I don't know for sure, but I am assuming the WAS is easier to DB then the WS.

If you can flag neffer and get him to read and comment on your posts he can give you his advice. He used to be a WH and his W standing on her own and getting his respect back I think was a big part of his reason to come back to the MR.