Yes, at some point. Maybe do a check in every Monday morning....just like you would if you were losing weight: "Do I want to file for divorce this week?" If the answer is no, then let it go until the next Monday. I can see and feel and read that you have this...cloud?...fog?...over everything you are doing/feeling/saying. Like you are only putting yourself out there halfway because thats all you have to give right now. Like you are still protecting yourself from W or some thing. Or saving that other half in case she comes racing back. How can you funnel that energy and interest into YOU? Instead of researching divorce, how about looking up what game you want to bring to the next game night? Or where would be cool to go visit in Switzerland? Or whatever. Funnel your energy back into you and positive things.
Originally Posted by burned "Burned, do the right thing, take back your self-respect, your dignity, your honor. Protect yourself financially, she loses nothing by dragging this out." [/quote
But....thats all based on her. It's advice meant to help you end your pain. It's EASY to give that advice. Divorce doesnt stop the hurting. Divorce wont make her feel your loss. You take back your self-respect by RESPECTING YOURSELF. Divorce is just a piece of paper - if you are divorced but still give her the same headspace, it doesnt matter.
[quote=burned I can't kick this can down the road much longer. Yeah, there's always hope. But I could also get hit by a bus crossing the street. So, anything is possible.
Like I said....stop worrying about a week from now. Or a month from now. Or a year from now.
The only question that matters is "Do I want to be divorced right now?" If the answer is no, then who cares about what is in a month. A lot can change by then. Or not change.
