My professional background is in communication. I never said you had autism spectrum disorder, only that you seem to strongly prefer the sort of blunt, brutally honest communication stereotypically associated with ASD.

I suggested you learn about communication styles, not that you get tested.

The incident with your daughter that stands out is when she asked for a turtle and you gave her a tank of fish and then were mad when she gave the fish away. You said a turtle and fish were similar pets and seemed unable to understand how others could view that differently. I know it's a sore spot, so I avoided mentioning it specifically at first.

Like I said, I only have a tiny sliver of insight into your life, based on what you write. It sounds like my impression is off base, as I recognized it might be.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16