Yesterday was especially difficult. D9 is an emotional mess. She is crying frequently, doesn't want to go to dance, is wetting the bed. I have her booked for counseling this Thursday so hopefully that will help her out. The really tough part is W chalks it up to D9 going through pre teen changes and keeps saying it is normal. Now I'm no expert in this matter but I do not think it has anything to do with that at all.
D12 is the same. Not bed wetting but getting upset easily, crying at the smallest things and has reoccurring tummy pain. At first, H used the same excuse "pre-teen angst". I think he was partly right - she is a pre-teen and they do get anxious. But it is not inconceivable that her parents splitting up may also have contributed. They live in a fantasy world where nothing they do impacts anyone. That way they don't have to feel the guilt of their actions. You are doing the right thing getting her counselling. Don't bad mouth your W in front of them and remind them (hard as it will be at times) that you both love them very much.
Originally Posted by RyanHun
W is also crazy critical with all three kids. Constantly yelling at them and getting overly angry about the dumbest things ... Saturday night the neighbors called me over ... They really wanted to express concern for the kids and filled me in on a bit. Most of it goes along the same lines of W being over critical. They have heard on multiple mornings W yelling and screaming at the kids.
Yep - went through this too. Once, H D12 lost her PE kit and when he found out he drove her to the school at night, made her walk around the school looking for it (she couldn't find it) then drove her home (screaming at her the entire time - irresponsible, why do you lose everything, that kit cost �300 which I am taking out of your savings). We were all walking on egg shells. Not sure why this happens. I think it is because they feel trapped and they resent everything that makes them feel that way.
Originally Posted by RyanHun
I'm not sure yet how I am going to handle the conversation I obviously need to have with W yet on this matter but something needs to be said.
"I understand that things are difficult between us at the moment but I would like it to not impact the children. I think we should work together on this. What can we do to make things easier for them?"
Originally Posted by RyanHun
Am I dealing with an OW situation instead of an OM? In the grand scheme of things it doesn't really make much difference with where I am at but something that is on my mind.
Nope - doesn't matter. Net impact is the same.
Originally Posted by RyanHun
Having one of those days where I just feel like throwing in the towel, getting this Alien out of my life and moving on. i really just don't know how much of this I can take.
I think there is something in the air. Today has been a total [censored] of a day and I too feel like throwing in the towel. I think life would be so much easier if I was willing to throw away 14 years of marriage on a whim.
