13 years and two small children

[Hurt213]

Thanks for the information guys.

I will try to keep my conversations with WW at a minimum. She informed me today, that she will be heading out (that is how she express that she goes to OM) this friday - we have split the weeks into 7/7, so this is her week to do what she wants, and I am basically having the kids, even though we live together. So she is free to do so, however it is so freaking disrespectful, and I don't know how to do anything other than ignore it, as I basically can't do anything.

I am also really frustrated by something that might seem harmless.. She was, for a long time, against birth control pills, after we had our daughter, as there were many side effects, and she basically told me that I should get an vasectomy (I believe it is called), because we were sure we werent having more kids. I was thinking long and hard, but decided not to (luckily), and we then used traditional birth control (read the old good rubber dubbers), as there was no way she would return to pills. Today, I went to get a folder in our office space, and in her open work case, there was a box of birth control pills. Apparently she began taking them again yesterday (im guessing so she can satisfy the OM). I know, this is none of my business, and I should detach like hell, but holy fk.. that set me back, because she seems to be a completely different person / beast as of now.

She even tried to engage in small talk with me from the minute I walked in after work, and for the next hour, she was talking about her day, what people did and say, and how and what she had been doing - I just said "mmhm".

I am really trying to follow the advice for LBS with a WW from sandi2, where you are to completely show WW that you are done with their ugly behaviour, and that you don't care what they do, but you do you. But im struggling as you can see.

I wanted to confront her so badly with the information that she had reengaged in the OM affair for the third time now. (if you can call it an affair after her and I ended our business), and I wanted to confront her about being on birth control after our many conversations regarding them. I did neither because I was instructed to always come here for advice before I do such thing.

She told me that she had been together with her girlfriends in the weekend, and had told them, how she had ended things with me, and was now going to be a single mother. Her girlfriends had been appalled by her doing, and urged her to think about things according to WW. To me it seemed like, she didn't really pay attention to what they said, instead she seemed to be enjoying that they had their full attention on her, and that she was somehow special. It is sickening.

Tonight she is out with other friends, and she said she was going to tell them as well, that she had ended our family life. It is like she is getting a kick out of this, more than facing the reality of what she is actually doing.

Sorry for the rant, but needed to vent...