Well it was a tough weekend. I have been sick so GAL and the gym and any other form of leaving the house pretty much came to a halt so I was at home with W and the kids most of the weekend. Yesterday was especially difficult. D9 is an emotional mess. She is crying frequently, doesn't want to go to dance, is wetting the bed. I have her booked for counseling this Thursday so hopefully that will help her out. The really tough part is W chalks it up to D9 going through pre teen changes and keeps saying it is normal. Now I'm no expert in this matter but I do not think it has anything to do with that at all. W is also crazy critical with all three kids. Constantly yelling at them and getting overly angry about the dumbest things. Sunday for example D4 wanted water in a water bottle. W freaked out because supposedly the water bottles " Are for school only and when we are at home we use a cup". D4 got upset and did what most 4 year olds would do, she refused to drink water out of a cup. Eventually I had to step in and advised W that I wasn't trying to over rule her parenting but D4 was thirsty, was making a healthy choice by having water and needed to stay hydrated regardless of what vessel that water came from.
Saturday night the neighbors called me over. I was under the impression that they just wanted to hang out but it turns out they wanted to discuss the situation. They had previously asked some questions when they noticed W was never around at the BBQ's we often have or any of the other events we often did so I had advised them that we were headed for divorce and left it at that with zero details. They really wanted to express concern for the kids and filled me in on a bit. Most of it goes along the same lines of W being over critical. They have heard on multiple mornings W yelling and screaming at the kids. I'm not sure yet how I am going to handle the conversation I obviously need to have with W yet on this matter but something needs to be said.
Another topic that came up was W's girlfriend. I have often thought that there was an affair going on but couldn't say for sure. W was spending a ton of time with one of her new younger girlfriends form work but I always figured it was W's attraction to the younger lifestyle with no real responsibilities, night after night of partying or just emotional support through this difficult time. This girl recently split with her long time boyfriend but again I thought nothing of it. The neighbors informed me though that within 5 minutes of the kids leaving for school in the morning this friend is showing up almost every day, staying for an hour and then leaving. Now who knows what any this actually means but could it be that I was right to suspect an affair but was thinking of it all wrong? Am I dealing with an OW situation instead of an OM? In the grand scheme of things it doesn't really make much difference with where I am at but something that is on my mind.
