New chapter....with or without her

[EZdozit]

Received another note from S teacher regarding his behavior that both W and I were copied on. Turns out he fell apart and cried on 3 separate occasions yesterday. W promptly responded saying she would ask S about the “incidents” and then replied that he was upset about missing a mathematical lesson cartoon while he was getting extra help with some spelling words...

S’s teacher replied making the statement that she was surprised that missing a show was his concern and had many other thoughts as to what might be troubling him. I let this response set with me for a half hour so I wouldn’t react to harshly...as yesterday while taking S to school he tells me he is afraid to talk anymore and wants to be shy since W and I live in 2 different houses. (S use to be boisterous and full of life pre BD).

I then replied back including W that S’s behavior wasn’t anything regarding school...but his life circumstances..and I refused to sugarcoat it and make random excuses like W continues to do.

I feel as S is in a dark space and my efforts to be his rock has been sound...but fear what he gets told while with W.

I continue to keep w and I sitch separate from being a father to S...but I’m struggling how to navigate this. S has lost all semblance of innocence he once had.