[LH19]

W,

I really hope you didn't do or say anything last night that you are going to regret. Do nothing for a few days take a dep breath and do nothing. You are spinning out of control and making matters worse almost like you are intentionally trying to sabotage yourself. I am going to respond to your post below and be brutally honest.

Maybe what I just need to do is say, “this isn’t working for me since you are in contact with OM. I can’t control what you do or don’t. However, if you think when we D that we will be “friends”, this pretty much negates that ever being possible.

This is a weak threat. Sounds childish. If you don't do what I say I am not going to be friends with you.

You were suppose to be NC and taking time and space to see what you wanted.

She has figured out what she wants. It's OM with proof by her ACTIONS.

That can’t happen with continued contact. I’ll be civil to you but we will not be buddy buddy.

Again, another weak threat.

I have too much respect for myself for that.”

Really? Do you? You have been cheated on by her 3 times that you know of and she continues to disrespect you in your own home.

That a boundary I can enforce. I can also say I no longer want her here. That isn’t telling her to leave. That’s just simply telling her how I feel.

First off that is not a boundary. Second PLEASE PLEASE STOP telling her how you feel. She doesn't care it is obvious by her ACTIONS.

Then she can just stay here, build up her checking account and take off when she’s financially comfortable all the mean while I’m not going to engage with her whatsoever.

Another weak threat.

Look man I know this is not easy but it is very difficult to read your posts watching you dig your own grave. You have to let her go and work on yourself. You are young enough to have a good life and maybe just maybe with time and space and she sees a new Wanted and not someone she can walk all over she will change her mind and reconcile with you.

No more words. Only strong ACTIONS!