[Wanted1]

Maybe what I just need to do is say, “this isn’t working for me since you are in contact with OM. I can’t control what you do or don’t. However, if you think when we D that we will be “friends”, this pretty much negates that ever being possible. You were suppose to be NC and taking time and space to see what you wanted. That can’t happen with continued contact. I’ll be civil to you but we will not be buddy buddy. I have too much respect for myself for that.”

That a boundary I can enforce. I can also say I no longer want her here. That isn’t telling her to leave. That’s just simply telling her how I feel.

Then she can just stay here, build up her checking account and take off when she’s financially comfortable all the mean while I’m not going to engage with her whatsoever.