[Wanted1]

I also feel like I need to show her, with action, that I’m ready to move on. I’m not going to “make” her leave because I really can’t. But I’ll tell her I can make it real uncomfortable if she wants to stay.

That sounds like a really bad idea

Can I ask why? I should just go along my merry way while she continues to fake like she’s struggling so hard with what to do all the while maintaining contact with OM?

Sounds like the biggest pushover, whimpy, weakling thing to do......

You can decide you are going to cohabitate but build a life without her.

You can move out.

Both of those are strong.

Making her life difficult because you can’t control her is weak.

But maybe what I am imagining is different from what you are thinking?

I can’t move out because she can’t afford the mortgage. I can. It’s already understood I get the house. That’s why if anyone moves out is going to be her eventually so why can’t I insist on it being now?

Remember, I’ve been on her time schedule throughout this whole limbo of time and space she told me she needed......