H really got under my skin today. First a little background. H is Trustee of his Dad's estate. (His mom is still alive in a nursing home). It's not much, but there was a shared rental property with other investors. During our marriage, I took care of everything related to it, communicating with the partners, taxes, etc. In fact I really did everything for his parents. I didn't mind that much because I was home when I took over that job. When he left, I turned the checkbook and the few bills over to him for his mom to take care of once a month. I do visit her several times a week. She is declining, and I am close to her. I'm happy to do that.
A few days ago we get an email that the rental property finally sold. I forwarded it to H. H asked what the exact name of the Trust was called, which I provided to him (but wanted to say you can look in the bank account just like I can...do it yourself). Another e-mail comes in yesterday. I forwarded it to him. A third today asking if we saw the first e-mail. Obviously he did nothing with any of them. I forwarded it to H (all the while messaging him I forwarded him these e-mails to be sure he saw them)
This is the part that ticked me off: He e-mails back: "Tell him to make it out to the account name u gave me". What the heck. I'm not his secretary, which is how it makes me feel. I e-mailed back: "I think you need to take care of this". He responds some time later "Fine". That's it. Whatever....
I think that if he doesn't want to live with me as a H, then I shouldn't do the things a wife would do.
Did I handle this o.k. from a DBing standpoint? I'm really irked by this, but need to let it go, I know.
On a positive note, spent 2 nice days with D19. Got her back to college today, but both will be home next week for Thanksgiving, as well as a good friend will be in town. Can't wait!
