Unsure what's next, what to do.....Part II

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Not sure I have enough time before our convo to read everything but I’ll try. I need to enforce this boundary I think. I’m not going to kick her out or be physical. I plan to just tell her she’s no longer welcome here is she continuing the A. The reason for this limbo stage where she’s staying in the house in the guest BR was to get “time and space to figure out what she wants”. This isn’t her trying to figure things out. It’s her biding time and cake eating.

Not sure what else I can do. I do NOT want her in our house continuing contact with OM. That is a direct example that she’s clearly not wanting to R or work on the M.

IMO she’s yet to feel any type of loss or face any consequences from her actions. This will be the first.

I appreciate any insight.