So I saw her for the first time in 7 months yesterday exchanging D. Even with that passage of time W still said not a single word to me nor did she look at me at all. Truly amazes me, I mean she's been off living the life she wants for months and yet it seems she is still as angry and resentful towards me as she was when she left. It must be terribly exhausting staying that angry, that long. Anyway I was fine, I'm fit, cleaned up nicely, was happy, guess honestly for W's sake I hoped it might go differently, but nope...that's who she is. Leaving ACC's quote below to coda this encounter and keep on living my life:
Originally Posted by Accuray
Who is the easier spouse to leave (all other things being equal), a terrible abusive monster, or a genuinely good person? If you left an abusive monster how would you feel? Free? Vindicated? Empowered?
If you left a genuinely good person, and with the passage of time it became apparent to you that your issues have more to do with how you feel about yourself than anyone else, how would you feel? Shame? guilt? embarrassment? failure?
If someone evokes the feelings of guilt, shame and embarrassment within you, are you likely to want to interact with them more or less?
Her avoidance of you has everything to do with how she feels about herself and very little to do with you. She's not looking at you, she's looking in the mirror and doesn't like what she sees.
You will change that narrative when you're having a kick-ass life and she feels left behind. When you get there, I'll be you that she won't be hesitant to interact with you at all.
