Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage

[SoTorn]

we were already done" "If I were happy with a good husband I wouldn't have even thought about this."

Lol every cheating WAS says this. How could they justify their own poor choices if it weren't for what you did.

But I see that a lot of responses here warn not to move out.

In some places, it may hurt you, legally, to do so. But talk to a lawyer who will tell you if it is safe in the eye of the court to do so.

Don't worry about her visiting her father. Doesn't she know that she doesn't want to be like him in that regard?

A lot of WW's think their AP is their soulmate. Then one day, the WW ditches the AP when it gets boring or too messy or she needs money or realizes he is a loser or a smoker or drug user.

Yep, I just talked about this in RWAlan's thread the other day:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2821220#Post2821220

My wife doesn't need money lol. This guy got close because he was her manager and pushed her to further her career. All she heard at home is "why are you gone so much" while this guy was like "let's focus on you, we got this". I feel that's where they started bonding. I know the mind of a cheating man. My father was a habitual cheater. He would tell women whatever they wanted to hear and even led one along with the promise of leaving his wife. She loved him, he enjoyed being sexually fulfilled because that's where his wife lacked. I'm sure that the OM found what he needed in my wife which was a hot younger woman to have sex with and my wife believes everything he says and feels she loves him. Plus he is successful. I am successful as well so I know it's not necessarily that.

I will just GAL and stay here. I am going to make sure that I'm either always happy and doing things for and by myself. And that I will take care of my kids emotional needs. My daughters wanted on my gym membership and the wife always said no. Even though we can easily afford it. So in order to spend more time with them I added them to my membership.

So I will continue on the GAL and 180. I am not moving. I can't kick her out. If she leaves I will accept. If she is nice I will be cordial and brief. I'm going to do everything I want to do.

Anyone taken a trip by themselves while GAL? I want to go back to the Philippines and visit my friends I made there. Great people. Very hospitable and caring.