After reading your posts there are a number of points that I find puzzling:
Probably the first one and be honest to yourself... Do you love her? Why? What do you miss about your relationship?
- In all this time have you read the DR Book completely or skipped over pages looking for the short cuts. - In your relationship did you pass the leaderhip to her? - If you separated or divorced and ended up with the kids how would your life change socially and financially? - Do you really understand what GAL means? - I see your focus is Leaving the House or Not // Divorce // Kids // Consequences. What are your priorities? - Why are you forever setting ultimatums of one more .... Where do you draw the line? - Have you looked in the mirror and seen what was your part and what have you done to change?
The reasons for these questions is that many posts have been made with good advice but I have the impression you left out parts particularly about you and unless you study (not just read) the DB book and its principles, what you interpret and what they mean are 2 completely different levels.
