So the issue with me leaving is that it can legally impact me. It's not that I am afraid of consequences. The issue with ne trying to force her out is legal consequences for me. Those are the big multipliers.
I don't think I understand this. Why would staying in the house have a legal impact on you. All the advice I have received (and I have consulted three different lawyers) consistently says stay in the marital home. Leaving has bigger legal consequences. If she wants to leave, let her leave. But that is her choice.
Originally Posted by SoTorn
I may change the locks. She could call the cops and they would make her leave. But we would have to repeat this over and over probably.
I don't know where you live, but here in the UK, you cannot force your spouse out unless they are a danger to yourself or the kids. It does not sound like this is the case. You also cannot change the locks. Once they have moved out they have a legal and moral obligation to not enter without an invitation or permission (though you still cannot change the locks).
Originally Posted by SoTorn
I don't want a divorce ... I feel she would happily sign divorce papers and drag my kids and I through the mud. I accept that it's over as it was, but I honestly cannot file. I don't believe in divorce and its against my strong morals and values.
Then don't file. GAL, detach and 180. Anything and everything she does should be like water off a ducks back. That is within your control. Treat her like someone you interact with at work, but don't really know. Polite, but not overly friendly. That is the consequence of her actions. She loses your emotional support. She loses the emotional impact she has on you. She starts to believe she has lost you. And believe me, losing the emotional support of someone you've relied on for years is like losing a limb. Even if she does not want you right now, it will still be like losing a part of her.
Originally Posted by SoTorn
Another issue is that she can work from home. I can't. Me taking time away from work hurts me at work. So if I do something it may put me at a disadvantage with custody of my kids ... I could literally end up alone without my kids
Get legal advice on this. Get some facts. And then work your options from there.
