This whole extended exchange seems very pursuing and not DBing.

And controlling.

Every time you talk about your wife’s communication style, I get an impression of a woman who has had her thought and feelings dismissed so often (possibly because they are judged as insufficiently “logical”?) that she doesn’t feel safe sharing.

I’m not seeing how your current approach is going to help her overcome that.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16