Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage

[SoTorn]

So the issue with me leaving is that it can legally impact me. It's not that I am afraid of consequences. The issue with ne trying to force her out is legal consequences for me. Those are the big multipliers.

I have to decide if me possibly losing my kids is worth me trying to take them. I am done contacting her. I don't want anyone to punish her.

I understand she needs consequences but the only consequence I have available may put me at a disadvantage legally. I don't want a divorce.

I feel she would happily sign divorce papers and drag my kids and I through the mud. I accept that it's over as it was, but I honestly cannot file. I don't believe in divorce and its against my strong morals and values.

I may change the locks. She could call the cops and they would make her leave. But we would have to repeat this over and over probably.

Another issue is that she can work from home. I can't. Me taking time away from work hurts me at work. So if I do something it may put me at a disadvantage with custody of my kids.

Unfortunately, although the choices are black and white, there are no black and white consequences for me. I could literally end up alone and without my kids. My kids want to live with me. My entire goal right now is to take care of my children and myself. If I shoot myself in the foot legally, then she will get the kids.