From talking with my Dr and coworkers it seems to be age related as much as stress. Coworkers are older than I am.
I'm 57 and sleep quite well. I think a big part of it is because I work out daily, eat well and don't smoke/drink. I do get stressed out about work and bills and taxes and such but it doesn't really affect my sleep. I did have a lot of trouble sleeping for months after BD though, so that's probably what your issue is.
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Really questioning the whole GAL etc right now. W is on my mind constantly. Miss her. Hoping she misses me. From what I gather reading here and in the DB/DR book... maybe is as likely as maybe not.
She probably does, but that doesn't mean she wants to get back together (she doesn't). Maybe later, but not now. Right now her feeling that this is the right thing to do far overpowers her feeling of missing you. What do you mean by "questioning the whole GAL thing right now"? Is it because you're GAL'ing and still thinking about her? GAL isn't a magic pill, it takes a while for it to work. You'll think about her less and less over time until you find yourself not thinking about her at all for long periods of time.
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Going back and reading the DR, Men are from Mars or 5 Love Lang... I don't know if it helps or not. I read fairly fast and have good retention so subsequent reading goes faster and faster.
Do the opposite. Read fast the first time to get the broad picture, then slow down the following times and really think about it, meditate on it, and digest it. I think we all like to fancy ourselves fast readers with good retention but in actuality we all miss a lot of substance when we read too quickly.
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Considering how well I feel I am doing with this detaching... really not at all. Conclusion, fault is with what or how I am doing this and not the process. I'd say everyone else is struggling with it too but seem to be making better progress.
You joined 3 months ago! When we say this is a marathon and not a sprint, we are not talking about saving your M. We're talking about saving YOU. It doesn't happen overnight, it is a slow, difficult, frustrating process. The number one stumbling block for most people here is a lack of patience. Hey, I get it. Who wants to hurt and suffer for months, no one. But unfortunately that is part of it. When a loved one passes away it takes us a lot of time to grieve and come to acceptance. This is not much different, she is still around but nevertheless you have lost her and you will grieve for a while. Just keep at it and try to understand that things will get better with time, but you can't speed up time!
