I know you were angry coming home to the pile of mail w/the papers and the gift all in one place, but you need to rethink acknowledging the gift. I know you don't want to, but it wouldn't hurt to just say "thank you for the gift" and leave it at that. Be the better person here and show him that you aren't going to stoop to his level.
I've been where you are right now and the best revenge is to live your life to the fullest and know that you are the strong one at the moment. The old saying, "kill them with kindness" does work. Besides, doing the 180 and thanking him for the gift just may give him pause to wonder what you are up to. Gerda, he knows you so well and is expecting you not to acknowledge the gift.
Take a huge breath and know that things will get better in time. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
