I thought about pointing out to her that all I ever really wanted was mature honest communication, but didn't mention it.
That was until right after posting that. Went downstairs to French press the second round of coffee. (don't worry, I've done it for years. Not just after BD) W comes into the kitchen and starts chit-chat. I asked her if I could say something about what happened yesterday. If she would hear me out and then I would welcome her comments. She said yes. I went back through the series of events including the part about her confessing that she was leaving to avoid pressure after ridiculing me for thinking just that, and said " I never wanted to stop you from going anywhere, especially not church. I just wanted honest communication."
She just stopped and had a slightly sad face. No words, as expected. I waited because as the MC pointed out. I think a lot faster. lol After a minute I asked "Do you disagree with any of that?" She said "No, not really" still looking sadish. I went on with the coffee and she throws in. "That was the only reason, I did want to try that church." I reply. "I never said it was the only reason" I go on with the coffee and she continues to get ready for work. After burning up another hairdryer she comes into the MBR looking for the travel dryer and acting like nothing ever happened.
Last edited by RR17; 11/12/1801:13 PM.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.