....she's still there. that's the truth....Now the work really starts....
She will check you to see if you're still available...Don't go completely dark....so don't stop what you are doing....you will want to share with her the ongoings in your life. You will want to apologize or tell her how you have changed. Resist this at all cost.
She will notice changes if she says something shrug it off as no big deal, thank her like you would thank anyone else for the compliment. Don't explain anything to her about yourself.
Keep your conversations kids and finance centered, always get off the phone or end conversations first. DON't Linger, always stay in a bit of a hurry around her like you have more important things to tend to.....
Make her wonder what you are up to. I think this woman is still crazy about you. I think she has justified in her head why she isn't but in her heart, she knows you are the one. Do this for a few months so that she has time to let her situation sink in. I would not be the least surprised that on occasions you will go to pick up the kids and she will ask if you want to stay for dinner. I won't be the least surprised if you notice that she always seems to need to talk to you about the kids or finances. My wife did this a lot and I fell for it a lot. .....Every time we did something like this together she would always pull back afterward
Your wife needs time to process what she has done.
This isn't' the time to be a dick this is a time to pleasant and happy, do not put on the sad face in front of her anymore.
This is a time that you really give her her space to let her process. If she wants to talk about the R listen don't talk, only listen and validate
My prayer every day was God let us be friends so we can take good care of our children.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
