I want to add that how your current sitch effects them will largely be in response to how you behave. I would tell them that you are going through a rough patch and trying to work things out. Be positive. This is the best policy IMO. Remember they are watching and how you mitigate will in large part prepare them for future challenges of their own. If they know that mom is navigating the sitch well, they will be okay. If they ask if you are getting a D? I would answer. "I hope not".
I believe I've done a pretty good job in this department so far. They don't ask much about it, especially my daughter. When I told them we were separated, I told them that I don't want a D and hope we can work it out, and that hoping some time apart can help us. I don't speak ill will of him at all, but when they ask about him (what he thinks, is doing, etc), I just tell them they have to ask their dad.
Originally Posted by RR17
Didn't you mention to him that he was welcome to Thanks Giving? If so then stop pursuing an answer.
I haven't mentioned Thanksgiving at all to him yet. That's why I asked. Didn't know how an invitation would fit into DBing. From you said, and others, I see that it's o.k. to be nice. The DBing part is placing no expectations on whatever his decision is. Which is how I will proceed.
