The only thing you should believe are his behaviors. Not his words.
The best way to communicate with him is through your behavior. Use your words sparingly. Boundaries and validation. Always speak the truth. Make sure you understand body language and that you are communicating the right messages to him.
It is best to think of him as a new man who you have your eye on. Lets imagine you are single and this is a new single guy that just moved into the apartment across the hall. How would you treat him?
Thank you so much for the encouragement. If he was a guy in the apartment across the hall and we talked and he said all the confusing things he痴 said to me, I wouldn稚 be interested in him at all. I would see someone that was not my type or someone I wouldn稚 be interested in because he痴 a complete mess.
I just can稚 believe this is my life at freaking 42. I can稚 understand why this is happening to me. It痴 so frustrating.
What pisses me off the most is Mr. I知 bored with my routine and want to start doing the things in life I want to do, hasn稚 done anything. He had the entire weekend to go do some of the things he痴 stated he wants to do, but guess what Mr. I Hate Routines did? He did the same thing he always does...he sat around with his boring self and was sleep by 9 pm on a Saturday evening. For someone who is tired of his routine he hasn稚 changed crap. So I guess he値l magically come alive once he moves out. I swear I want to smack the crap out of him. No worries, I won稚. I知 just venting.
I hope I don't come off as arrogant and the age difference between my WAW and Mr. I'm bored sound similar in this.
One of the main reasons she wanted to separate and D in the future was because she felt she was too young and hadn't had a chance to better herself and live her life. But when we were together she would watch TV more than anything. She did work A LOT and I mean that! But when she did have time at home I never saw her show any interest for going back to college or ever once saw her pick up a book.
I guess they might believe that once they break free all of their ambition or new personality will take over.
He痴 going to be 46 in a few months and no you don稚 come off as arrogant. He has made statements that he he didn稚 do things right career wise and that he痴 spent his life living for others.
It just cracks me up because like he listed off a few things that he wanted to do but hasn稚 been doing, yet he isn稚 doing any of those things and I知 not holding him back from doing them. Like he hasn稚 done not even one of the things he claims to want to do. And these are simple things like freaking fishing.
He痴 going to have to meet some younger friends or divorced men when he moves out. Because most of his friends are in other states and are married. The friends that he has here most are married or in committed relationships. So like who the heck is going to be available to hang out with you in your new life? You are in your late 40痴 not your late 20痴. Maybe he should join a support group for single men over 40.
When it comes to another woman, if and when he does move on, she will have to be younger than him...maybe in her 20痴. Because I don稚 know any woman (although I知 sure there are a few out there) in her 40痴 that won稚 have standards and expectations for a relationship. So I guess he痴 going to be spending the rest of his good years in revolving relationships. That痴 so freaking sad to me. But hey it痴 what he wants.
Last edited by Living; 11/11/1808:03 PM.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
