What was your real reason for you to tell her you didn't want her to go? Why didn't you give her a reason? I'd be annoyed too if my H said "because I said so".
One of the things my H accused me of, and rightly so looking back, is that I mothered him too much. Told him what to. Often he said "I'm not one of the kids". I did not LISTEN to that, and it fed into the predicament I'm in now.
