It was just D12 and I today. MIL took D9 (I can't believe she's 9 now !!) to see a show. D12 wasn't feeling well (still has tummy ache) so I said she could stay with me. We chilled out at home, then went into town for lunch. She had her first eye brow threading (she held the arms of that chair for dear life, but did not once say stop) and somehow managed to also sweet talk me into buying her some new clothes. `Whilst we were out BIL called and asked if I would take his daughter for the night as he and his (no longer ex) GF are going out for dinner and spending the night in a hotel.
I agreed, but maybe because he caught me off guard. 5 days ago they couldn't stand each other - they have had an on off relationship for years and he has been back and forth between their house and his dads many many times. Strangely, pre BD, H and I had had a handful of arguments in our 15 years, and never one that led to him moving out. I married the proud stubborn brother.
MIL brought D9 over in the late afternoon and stayed for a cup of tea. She took D9 and BIL's daughter to a Little Mix tribute show. Apparently they were both singing and dancing in the isles. We talked about D12 for a bit. MIL thinks the tummy pain is anxiety because H has gone on holidays again. I validated, but didn't agree. Though I do agree with her, I have learned to keep my own counsel. We talked about BIL and maybe exGF (again validated, but did not agree). Then she said sometimes when she is talking to H, he still talks like we are are still together and that she found this strange. He never speaks badly of me. She mentioned again that last time she was here he was insistent that she come have a look at the photos I put up in the den (12 10 x10inch photo canvases) of the girls and I. He told her how great they looked. Apparently he stood there for ages just looking at them. He has not once mentioned to me that he has even noticed them. There as also a few on my desk waiting to be put up. Photos I took on holidays on my own whenever H takes the girls away (landscapes, interesting buildings, trees, flowers) which I intend to put up in the MBR. He said how great these were too and he told her about a photography course I am taking. It sounded like he was proud of me. It is strange he has these conversations about me with his mum but not with me. Highlights how far apart we are and just how much is left unsaid between us.
He called the girls the last two days but called on D12's phone so I didn't talk to him. I didn't mind too much (the first time I was mucking about on the piano and the second time I was upstairs sorting my wardrobe). I did think, why is he calling D12's phone - he always calls on the home phone. Then realised he is somewhere a phone call would cost a fortune so he is probably face timing her to save money.
