From personal and collateral experience in house separation rarely works. You really have to work on it and it is difficult feeling a loss of someone who you see day in day out even if they aren't talking to you. Another point is that with in house separation you are more exposed to manipulation and what I call the frog effect. Put a frog in a hot pan and it will jump immediately. Put it in a warm environment and gradually heat it up and it will stay in the pot even at the same temp where it jumped before. The reason and comparison is that we have a habit of adapting. We adapted when things went from honeymoon to transilvania and within house separation we will adjust to some of the craziest sh1t if we havent done our emotional homework.
I tend to believe that with IHS 4 things happen:
- The one with the weakest character will lose - The WWS can adjust the behaviour pattern until they reach the bare minimum necessary to sucker the LBS - The WWS can continue to be WW and test how good they are at covering up - The LBS never really moves on, gets a life or focuses on themselves as they are always checking with the WWS through the corner of their eye.
I understand that a full separation is difficult for some so to overcome that you really need to hone your DB skills.
Finally, the inlaws are just that. No matter how much love there was as an in-law, their relationship with you is almost always parallel to your own relationship with your spouse.
