There is no right or wrong way in dealing w/a MLCer. Each person has to experiment and figure out what works best for them. If something doesn't work now, it might later on. I would suggest that you not smother her with 180's. I would do a few every now and then and drop them for a bit.
Remember...you can't rush the process and you do need to give her plenty of space to figure things out. You do not want to look like a pursuer and making her feel pressure. If she says she doesn't want you to do something, then maybe you should "listen to her" and honor her wishes.
Keep the focus on you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
