I really like that Bojack quote. It's true. And it's not. Hahaha...
What I meant that if your W showed the actions of love then she could rediscover the feelings.
Of course, that is hard, and she chose the easy path of just starting from scratch with OM.
If you have "that loving feeling" (ohohohhh) then it will create action.
Action or feelings lead to the other.
So if you're feeling down, something I did before I got home and would see my WW was put my hands up in the air and yell "YES!!!". Like I just won the Super Bowl. It made me happier. Weird. But if I did that for a couple of minutes, the nerve pathways work both ways and I could "be happy".
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.