So since I informed her I would not be friends with her if we divorce, things have changed. I feel she respects me a bit more and she has NOT tried to throw daggers or start any arguments. Things are smooth.
I am trying some 180s to see how things go.
Last night she did not want me to light her cigar, but I did anyway. She did not pay much mind to it. I got her an extra blanket because it is cold. She asked what it was for and I explained it to her. She gave a soft thanks. This morning I asked her what kind of coffee she would like and said "I dont need you to make my coffee for me" These are things she has never had a problem with before. She later texted and apologized for being rude but kids woke up early today and shes in a bad mood.
I will preface this with the fact I am still focusing on myself. I do wonder though, if she respects me more or if she has just given up. I do think if she has given up there would be MORE daggers, fights, etc... but nobody can understand the mindset here.
My big question is: are 180s attempted once or a few times over the course of days?
