Thank you for the reply DejaVu. It's been really hard for me not to be over enthusiastic or start to pursue. I find myself thinking about her and us way too much, and fighting the urge to text her. Some mornings she texts me good morning, some mornings I text her. I'd say recently she initiates 70% contact and I initiate 30%, will try to tone that down to 80/20. I just need to remember to stick to not pursuing and not being so available. I don't know if buying flowers and being romantic like that are too much at this point. This is uncharted territory for me!
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
Igniting her spark is not a physical thing... it is an emotional, connection thing. Keep working on that. I would say play hard to get but that sounds kind of manipulative so my advice would be to go slow.
Thank you so much for that, I need to remember that it isn't a physical thing. Last night I messed up by trying to initiate sex. The rejection made me feel somewhat insecure about this whole thing, it made me feel as though I'm possibly being friend-zoned. I've made it clear to her that I don't want to be just friends and she knows that. She told me last night that she wouldn't play with my emotions, and that she is letting me back into her life because she feels as though there is a chance to R. Just need to remember that when I feel insecure.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
So happy for you...and a little bit jealous. Would love to be in your position right now. Gives me hope though. Thank-you for that.
This might sound harsh, but the ONLY thing that turned my sitch around so far is truly giving up hope of R. In my heart, I truly believed that there was no chance of R. I grieved quite a bit, but I accepted it and started moving on. Somehow she took notice. I feel as though you can fake it to an extent, but in my case I think she saw through that. When I truly accepted that it was over, it drew her towards me. It put me in a position that whatever happens, I know that I'll be ok because I've already accepted the worse possible outcome. I will read your thread now and share any advice that I have
