Maybe She Isn't Evil

[RDS]

It's been a year and a day since I last posted. First off, I have to admit I haven't been has happy with someone as I am now, and that includes my XW in the best of days. My lady and I have been together for 14 months. We aren't legally married, but we did have a spiritual marriage ceremony and we consider ourselves husband and wife. I can spend hours talking about how great the woman I'm with is, but I won't go there. I know at our age we seem to be perfect for each other. We've learned enough about ourselves to know we can't play games and have someone be there for us at the end of the day. We have to be real with one another, and we are.

Anyway, the main reason I decided to swing by is to let everyone know who is hoping to find hope in their marriage, even after divorce, there can be! I say this because my XW and I were very friendly during our separation and most people though we would eventually get back together. Well, we didn't. My XW continued on with the separation (14 months) and completed the divorce. As soon as the divorce went final I made the decision that part of my life was now closed and I really moved on. I had already moved to another state and was prepared to live the bachelor life.

Fast forward a year and a couple of months. My XW called me. This is not an unusual thing because we still talk at least a once a month. She mentions some mundane things about her life and then she opens up. She is incredibly sad and misses me terribly. She wonders if my current GF treats me the way she treated me. I told her she treats me well, but not as well as she did. I lied, because my lady does treat me very well. It's just "different", but I felt there was no reason to go there.

She goes on and said she now knows she made a big mistake but knows it's too late. I sat there on the other end of the line thinking if I had heard those words 15 months ago I would have probably been on the top of the world and would have rushed back to be with her. Now, I felt nothing but sadness for her. I felt no longing or wanting for her. There was definitely no love felt. After I hung up the phone I nodded my head and experienced truly what a turn of events me being a cleared LBS feels like.

There can always be hope for the LBS if the spouse walks away. The ex can come back. For me it was too late for my EX. I had moved on; happily.