Hello all, back with an update on my sitch. We have been talking everyday, we spent last weekend together as a family, and last night she invited me to her apartment for dinner (I had no idea where she lived so that was a big step for her). We talked last night and she said that she has been feeling much better since we have been in contact these last two weeks. She said that we need to take things slow because she’s afraid to be in the same sitch that we were in before, I agreed. I asked her what she felt towards me. She said she loves me and she’s happy to be around me and talk to me. She said she is physically attracted to me still. She says there are things she loves about me but also there are things she can’t stand (things that I am working on changing and demonstrating with 180s which are working so far). But she says she needs to feel a “spark” (aka fall back IN love with me). She asked me if we could go out of state for a weekend (just the two of us) to reconnect. I bought her roses which she loved. Last night after our R talk I listened to some problems she is having, and I gave her some advice (she had a bad day, completely unrelated to me). We kissed, watched tv, she laid in my lap then I laid in hers, I made the mistake of trying to escalate to sex and it made her uncomfortable, I apologized then everything seemed fine, we continued snuggling and watching tv. When I left, she gave me a kiss on the lips. Today we texted and she asked me to consider the weekend trip because she really wants to go.
This is where I’m stuck and need advice. How should I proceed to ignite her spark? I feel like I have a chance to R with her but I am afraid of screwing up. Also I don’t want to turn into the friend who makes her feel better. I just need her to fall IN love with me again.... Thank you all for the support and advice!
