The other thing is to view this situation as a Valuable time /lesson in your life
Maybe not exactly what you wanted...but it needed to happen for whatever reason

It can become an extremely important time:

you get to re-discover yourself
you get to see the M..
the mistakes , the changes you would want in yourself if you had another chance

You get to look at your relationship with your kids, what you would change, whats important
your friendships and family

maybe there are some issues in yourself, that can be healed also-or changed
The way we take care of ourselves
our compassion expands ect…
our religious or spiritual views
much to learn here

Without the crises, we may not look within
we may not be aware of things even in other people that we need to see

It doesn't seem as such, but maybe a gift in some ways-

Usually the LBS gets to the other side with many new gifts, maybe a new view on life
and definitely happy again

Depending the the MLCer and if it is true MLC, some do not make the other side better than b4

more will be revealed later..
now is time for patience and inner healing and work

hang in there


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow