I have started to detach but very slowly. It has helped me get back into the grind at work, feel more confident and realize there is a world for me if things don't work out. It is a hard process though. 12 years, med school, residency, children were times of struggle and happiness, and we managed to pull through. I want to remain hopeful but have to prepare for the worst.

I haven't told her she's beautiful in over a week. I haven't said ILY in several days. I haven't hit on her in over a week. It is so hard because that is what helped us get back together for a time. Now it feels empty, stagnant, and like a friendship.